Watching the reactions of the minister in a video that has now gone viral (where the videographer and photographer are kicked off the outdoor altar area) has raised some fascinating questions for me.
Now when we talk to brides to be, we ask, how do you imagine your wedding day? We hear certain words over and over: Joyful, light, upbeat, casual, warm, friendly, relaxed and wonderful.
But, in the past nine years I’ve never heard a bride and groom say that they want a solemn/serious wedding. Nope. Not ever.
Watching a minister create a “memorable
moment” for the couple.
When did a joyful wonderful day turn into a solemn serious event? No mater what religion you are, you go to a wedding to share the moment they finally say “I do”. This is a wonderful time, cheering, laughter, tears of joy knowing two people have pledged to be together from here forward.
When I hear the words solemn & serious I think of something I have to endure, not be excited for.
Perhaps — and I’m going to take a wild guess — maybe some people have confused two entirely different definitions on the word solemn. Yeah, I know, who wants to look up words in a dictionary? But Krystal and I did.
So you don’t have to:
sol·emn [sol-uhm] from Dictionary.com
grave, sober, or mirthless, as a person, the face, speech, tone,or mood: solemn remarks.
gravely or somberly impressive; causing serious thoughts or a grave mood: solemn music.
serious or earnest: solemn assurances.
characterized by dignified or serious formality, as proceedings;of a formal or ceremonious character: a solemn occasion.
made in due legal or other express form, as a declaration or agreement: a solemn oath.
And I think some folks, the like minister in the video, have combined all these definitions into one big one. Marriage should and does cause serious thoughts. But since when did this have to mean grave, sober or mirthless?
And I can’t even say the religious beliefs enter in to this. I’ve seen — within the same religion — weddings and sermon/homilies that are fun and all about the bright future.
And then some that are so thinly veiled as “you will be condemned to hell” sermons that seemingly choose to chastise the couple and the entire group of guests. Huh? I thought this was a wedding and not a guilt-trip.
Maybe I should start asking the couple not only how do they want their day viewed, but what is the actual ceremony going to be like?
Final note — photographers and videographers are hired to document the days’ events. The couple want to preserve the images of the day so they can recall that day many years later. And so they can show their children and grandchildren their beautiful day.
Why would someone, i.e., the minister in this case, want to take that away? That one small event in a wedding day is what the whole day rotates around.
In this digital age we document everything (maybe too much as I really don’t want to see the plates of food people eat during lunch). So why would a couple want their ceremony skipped or badly documented on this joyful day? I don’t get it. Perhaps someone could explain this to me.
And — have to add this — we’re talking about professional photographers who’ve learned how to shoot a wedding day. Not the Uncle Bobs of this world.
Oh — and as a personal thing — I can’t fathom any really good reason why the videographer and photographer would choose to stand behind the minister and emphasize his bald head. . . But I wasn’t there and so don’t know the actual situation.
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